Pre-schooling the grandson

I wrote this a year or so ago (2014) and never posted it. I thought I should today before I accidentally delete it..... 


This will not be a Blog about music or the music industry or being a musician.  This one is about being a parent and/or parental figure. 

Today was the first day it was my job to drop off our grandson Tristan to Preschool. He's been going for a couple weeks now but today the schedule fell in favor of me taking him.  We all knew it would be a somewhat emotional event, mostly for me. 
In the previous weeks my daughter, Brittany, Tristan's mom, had been reporting how he's been enjoying preschool and looking forward to going every day. He's even tried to kiss one of his teachers. An awkward event that must be for all parties since it is up to any teacher to develop a loving and trusting relationship with their pupils and then you throw in the toddler who has been brought up showing love and affection by giving kisses. No kissing. This is the first step in "loving less" given.
Although not my main point of my Blog today, it is a point I would like to make because as I watched all these little people mill about the classroom, all very happy to be there and see each other and a good mix of  "color" in the class. It reminded me of my childhood and growing up with a diverse ethnicity in school and all getting along quite well and not knowing anything about Racism. That would change. 
Oh sure, there was the "sexism" thing. The whole "Boys versus Girls"  but I was in elementary school in the 1960's and we weren't taught to be ALL equal that way.
Today reminded me of how as all my classmates grew older we became more and more divided.  As our vocabulary grew so did the distance between some of my friends. Soon we were taught about the differences in the color or our skin and how that represented something to some people. As we grew older we could no longer just BE toddlers enjoying each others company and coloring paper stars. Somewhere somehow some of us found out we were different and that segregation was needed to keep those differences. 
It happens in many ways: Gangs, Sports, Neighborhoods, Money ......just to name a few. Strange how I would list sports but its true. Sports and sports teams become somewhat of a "gang" and a whole different kind of hatred is bred from it. Just sit in the stands of a Little League game of any sort and you'll hear it. It's not everybody, but there will be a few...or even one. But that's all it really takes. That group of toddlers in preschool milling about the classroom and coloring their paper stars are now separated into teams where parents are cheering them on to beat their friends. Yes, we all shake hands and congratulate each other after the game but some parents like to extend the competition all the way back home. Sad we can't all learn to "leave it on the playing field."

I don't want to get into describing each individual way we separate ourselves. We all know how it happens and we simply choose to do so.

If you choose to have a child the single most important job you have is raise it in an nurturing and loving environment. If you cannot do that do NOT have a child. It is not fair to you, the child, and the society you will eventually set it free in.

I was not the best Father to my daughter. I did what I could with the tools that I had. Now that my daughter has blessed us with a Grandson and I am older and wiser I see what it takes to raise a child. I suppose my daughter was raised okay because she is making us all very proud of how she's become a Mom. 

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